Message regarding COVID-19

As of March 19, 2020
In order to do our part in protecting vulnerable populations and to slow the transmission of COVID-19, many programs of the Alliance will be limiting in-person contact during the crisis. This has not been an easy decision, but we want to ensure everyone that services will still be provided to anyone that needs them.

Mountain Crisis Services will be limiting in person services for survivors at our office. Some in-person appointments will be necessary and will be scheduled by staff. Our hotline will be operational 24/7, our domestic violence shelter is still operating, and all counseling will be done via telephone or through video-based services. Legal Advocacy will still be available and advocates will still accompany survivors to court.

The Alliance provides services to some of the most vulnerable people in our community and we will continue throughout this crisis. We are working diligently to ensure our staff are supported during this time so that we can continue to offer these vital services. We look forward to when our services can resume without restrictions and we will continue to make changes as things evolve. Feel free to reach out to any of our programs to learn how to access services or how you can be a support during this time.

Characteristics of Batterers

Characteristics of Batterers

While these may not apply in all cases, these are common traits that batterers share:

  1. Batterers often seem set in their ways.
  2. They often have unreal expectations of other people and the way other people are supposed to act.
  3. Many feel very sorry for themselves and have a lot of self-pity.
  4. They have a need to control people or situations. They have a fear of losing control.
  5. They are jealous and suspicious.
  6. Often they are very angry people, moody, tense and frustrated.
  7. They are insecure and have a fear of inadequacy.
  8. Many can’t handle intimacy; they get tense and feel uptight.
  9. Their ability to handle frustration is very low.
  10. Batterers can see change as threatening and difficult. When things change, they  lose control.
  11. They may have low self-esteem and see themselves as losers.
  12. They have strict ideas about the way “a man is supposed to be.”
  13. Batterers often see themselves as being victimized and oppressed. They are not open about their feeling, often because they don’t know how to be.
  14. They have the ideal that men are supposed to be the head of the household and women have little or nothing to say.
  15. They usually blame someone else for what they do.
  16. Many use sex as an active aggression outlet and a way of venting anger.
  17. They feel their violent behavior is necessary and that others just don’t understand.


Recognizing a Potential Batterer:

  1. Does he say he was abused physically, verbally or mentally as a child?
  2. Was his mom battered?
  3. Has he been known to be violent with other people?
  4. Does he play with guns and use them to protect himself and other people?
  5. Does he lose his temper easily and frequently?
  6. Does he destroy or vandalize property such as cars, furniture, etc?
  7. Does he drink alcohol or use drugs excessively?
  8. Does he act extremely jealous when you are not with him?
  9. Does he expect you to spend all of your free time with him?
  10. Do you not see your friends or family because he gets jealous or angry?
  11. Does he get angry when you don’t do what he wants?
  12. Does he accuse you of flirting or having sex with other people?
  13. Does he make you feel guilty for not having sex with him, or disrespect your birth control method?
  14. Does he shout or yell often?
  15. Does he have very strict ideas about how a man “should be” and a woman “should be?”
  16. Does he have a dual personality?
  17. Do you feel like you are being abused?